I want to start with being vulnerable today. When I was thinking about what I wanted to share in this episode of the consciouspreneur journal, I, all of a sudden was flooded by thoughts of doubt, rejection and the feeling of being unworthy. Why, because the defeating part of my psyche kicked and self-defeating questions like who is going to listen to me, no one really cares anyways and what do I have to share with the world that is worth listening to? The mind started going into a spiral of thoughts that made me question what is it that I am trying to achieve and that was the sad part because I wanted to lay down my arms and give up on taking a step and creating this content that I am sharing with you.value
I know that as you are listening to this you are thinking wow that happens to me too, may be a lot may be a little. The truth is, and I know this to be the truth because I have spoken to dozens of entrepreneurs that feel the exact same way especially when they are stepping out of their comfort zone sharing something they strongly stand for with the world. Now, think about that for a second, if all of us feel that way at some point or another how is it that we see incredible human beings that are constantly choosing to step up and lead, share their gifts with the world, doing things that other are not willing to. Just imagine if Martin Luther King never chose to raise his voice and speak against the oppression, the world would be a different place, imagine if Muhammed Yunnus never chose to create the microfinance back that has helped countless women entrepreneurs in developing countries get out of debilitating poverty, the world would be a different place.
So then as I pushed forward and started to prepare for this podcast I asked what is it that makes people, myself included, push forward and keep moving in the direction against the resistance of quitting. And the answer to me became clear. It is our values. What you value you pursue, what you don’t value you let go.
I want to share what values are and how they are absolutely priceless in giving you an anchor that holds you solid and but they also act like a propellant that moves you in the direction your ego can sometime stop you from going. I also want to share a simple exercise that will help you identify your core values. Once you know your values and start creating work that is aligned with those values you will no longer rely on motivation to keep building the things that you want to build.
Values are the ideals that you hold highest in your mind that are important in shaping the way that you live your life. I mentioned values are what you hold highest in your mind but they are not necessarily what you may be practicing in your being, because when “what you do” and “how you behave” is consistent with your values, then life feels good, you feel that feeling of peace and inner satisfaction. But when what you do and how you behave is not aligned with your highest values you can begin feeling unfulfilled, dissatisfied and even pain. And in many cases you probably don’t even realize why you’re feeling this way.
Knowing what values are and how they are important for you is great but how do you define your values, there is a pretty simple exercise that I will share with you that will help you distill down your core values:
Step 1: From the list that you can download below, choose and write down every core value that resonates with you. Do not overthink this process. As you’re reading the list, simply write down the words that feel like a core value to you. Be aware of the emotions, pick the ones that give you an emotional response. If you come up with a value that you think you have and it is not on the list, be sure that you write that one down too.
Step 2: Group all similar values together from the list of values you just created. Group them in a way that makes sense to you. I’d recommend creating no more than five category. If you have more than 5 drop the ones you feel are least important. So, for example if you have values like abundance, wealth, freedom they might go in the same category. Another possible grouping is kindness, compassion and love.
Step 3: Choose one word within each grouping that best represents the label for the entire group. Again, do not overthink your labels. There are no right or wrong answers. You are defining the answer that is right for you. So for example, in the first category the word that jumps out at you is going to be your top value in that group, same for the second category and so on.
Once you have all your five values you can chose your top 3 that trigger the greatest emotional response for you. These are your core values. To really know if these are your values put them to the test, evaluate any opportunity or involvement that you are currently engaged in or will be in the future with these values and see if they instill a strong emotional response. If they do then you’re on the right track. In closing, Values are like beacons that attract what you WANT to you and YOU to what you want. Once you’re clear with those then things become a lot more effortless.
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